Ha! Fair enough. What irks me is that I usually follow someone who's been playing hyper-limited 2-tracks and FOH seldom leaves enough headroom to match apparent loudness. Comp/limit the stem busses?
Stop worrying about what everyone else is playing and just do your thing. Nobody ever liked a band just because they were the loudest thing on that night.
The 'hyper-limited' stuff tends to clear rooms in my experience. People respond to dynamics not volume.